Search Marketing Is Like Dating
By Mike Moran. Filed in Monthly Newsletter, Organic Search |Tags: Google, search marketing
Image by McBeth via Flickr
From across the room, you see…THE ONE. Wow. Your heart goes pit-a-pat at the sight. Immediately, your thoughts start racing. You are ready to do anything, be anything to be attractive to that one person you are fixated on. Is that the right approach? You probably know that it’s not the right approach in dating, but did you know that it fails in search marketing, too?
You know it doesn’t work with dating because if you are literally willing to do anything, that includes projecting a completely false image of who you are. It’s one thing to put your best foot forward, but it’s quite another to twist yourself into a pretzel to attract someone. When you do, two possibilities exist, both bad:
- You get rejected. Despite your best efforts to attract THE ONE, nothing works. You tried everything and you are still without your dream date.
- You succeed. Now, I know this seems like a good thing, but in the long run, it isn’t, because if you’ve morphed yourself to be attractive, your dream date is not actually attracted to you. The attraction is to this made-up person that you’ve become, and eventually the truth will out, and you’ll get rejected.
I’m not telling you this because I’ve suddenly fancied myself writing advice to the lovelorn. No, all these things you know about dating apply to search marketing, too, but most people don’t realize it.
When people start thinking about search marketing, Google is THE ONE and they sometimes seem ready to try just about anything to succeed. They focus on taking advice from just about anyone who seems to know what to do, and often that advice is bad.
They start by focusing on the most popular keywords. They plaster them onto their pages and wait for that great traffic to come. And one of two things happen, both of which are bad. They might get no traffic at all. Or they might get traffic, but from all the wrong people.
They also spend a of time trying to outfox Google–chasing the algorithm, it’s called. Whatever some expert says that Google wants, that’s what they do. No matter that the algorithm changes so frequently that only a true expert can keep up. They are willing to do whatever it takes to attract Google.
In dating, I hope someone gave you the advice to be yourself because you want to attract the right kind of attention from the right people. It’s worthless to act like someone you’re not because you’ll attract someone interested in some other kind of person. Worse, the people who would be attracted to the real you never figure it out.
Search marketing is no different. It’s fine to pay attention to search optimization. It’s a good idea to do keyword research and use those words on your pages, but only the ones that really match what you sell. If you are willing to do anything to get search traffic, you just end up looking desperate, and you attract all the wrong elements, just like in dating. And the people really looking for you won’t find you–and they are the ones who buy.










Monday, January 4th 2010 at 2:34 pm |
Try it until you stick with one you like? I think its more like marriage and requires constant effort ;-)
Monday, January 4th 2010 at 10:26 pm |
Interesting analogy, I suppose. I do agree that you shouldn’t pretend to be something you’re not, but highlighting your products or services by using the most popular keywords can really make a difference.
Tuesday, January 5th 2010 at 7:15 am |
Great analogy Mike! Simple advice for those chasing clicks in the short run, but so true.
Suresh Ramaswamy
Tuesday, January 5th 2010 at 10:46 am |
Well said. Yes it is like long term relationship. if you want to improve you ranking and stay at the top ten.
Tuesday, January 5th 2010 at 2:18 pm |
Like the dating analogy from the point of being true to your marketing self. And carrying it a bit further, would add that Search Engine Optimization (SEO) is really marketing matchmaking when it’s done right.
Tuesday, January 5th 2010 at 4:11 pm |
Excellent point on the “The attraction is to this made-up person that you’ve become . . .”. With so many companies, I find their website, but within a few minutes (or seconds) it’s apparent they are not what I really needed.
Wednesday, January 6th 2010 at 4:39 am |
I like this metaphor. I guess I get the point. but It would be really nice that Mike write more details.
Wednesday, January 6th 2010 at 7:52 am |
You right, if we always think that Search Marketing Is Like Dating we can keep our positive thinking. Example in dating we always respect each other, asa well as Search Marketing.
Wednesday, January 6th 2010 at 8:59 am |
Thanks Mike, your tips have helped me a lot in the past too. Especially the “The Search Engine Marketing Inc.” book.
Tuesday, January 12th 2010 at 7:52 am |
You right, if we consistently anticipate that Search Marketing Is Like Dating we can accumulate our absolute thinking. Example in dating we consistently account anniversary other, asa able-bodied as Search Marketing.
Wednesday, January 13th 2010 at 9:42 am |
Nice post, well said, its like a dating relationship the longer you give time to it the better the ranking